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How did my ex move on very fast?

15.06.2025 03:59

How did my ex move on very fast?

So you see, it isn’t that they moved on any faster, they just had a head start and now you’re in recovery mode, which they never were in because they deemed their actions were in accordance with their thinking patterns. Hence, dumping you is the totally correct and proper thing to do. No real remorse, no real pain.

Ex’s always move on faster. The why is simple if you stop and think about it. She dumped you and she most likely work up to that move, as females are prone to do by their nature. Which means she’s already work all her anxiety out, then went and dumped your ass all good to act on her feelings. Then your dumb butt is standing there with your hoo-hoo in your hand and a stupid look on your face, and probably doing the worst thing a guy can do and that is start begging for reasons or some such thing as that with tears in your eyes.

\This then begins a need to emotionally suffer or it generates anger, why? Because that bitch stabbed you in the heart and then walked off like it was no big deal.

I’m wondering about attachment and transference with the therapist and the idea of escape and fantasy? How much do you think your strong feelings, constant thoughts, desires to be with your therapist are a way to escape from your present life? I wonder if the transference serves another purpose than to show us our wounds and/or past experiences, but is a present coping strategy for managing what we don’t want to face (even if unconsciously) in the present—-current relationships, life circumstances, etc. Can anyone relate to this concept of escape in relation to their therapy relationship? How does this play out for you?